Tuesday, December 23, 2014

2015 bakal menjelang dan Sheaun pun dah besar

....pejam celik pejam celik dah nk penghujung 2014... dan lama jugaklah tak menjenguk sini...
eeh eehhh Sheaun dah nak masuk 5 tahun dah.. mcm tak percaya jew...masa berlalu terlalu pantas..masih terngiang2 diingatan kenangan masa dia kecik2 dulu.. dia baru belajar merangkak then bertatih jalan... berlari... I really miss those moments alot!! ni bawah ni banyak caption dari FB nak semadikan kat sini jugak untuk tatapan putera Ummi :) conclusion perjalanan 2014

Monday, January 20, 2014

Critical Decision

Life...full of unexpected things...hmmm...tersedar dari tidur terus dok pikir psl life at an island... a new resolution by papa sheaun...sanggup kah daku nk sacrifice my carrier again for another unexpected decision from my other half? Pelbagai persoalan timbul di fikiran...akhirnya nk tggu jawapan dari Allah lah... lets solat istikarah ;) (tetiba lapar plak ni.. aisshkkhhh)

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

11 Things I Wish Every Parent Knew

Hi...lama tak update blog ni...found an interesting article by Dr. Stephen Cowan:

After 25 years practicing pediatrics, and caring for thousands of children, I've noticed some patterns that offer me a deeper vision of health. Here are some of those invaluable lessons: 

1. Growth and development are not a race. 

These days we’re in such a rush to grow up. In our mechanized, post-industrialized world of speed and efficiency, we've forgotten that life is a process of ripening. To get good fruit, you need to nourish strong roots. Pay attention to the ground that supports your child’s life: Go for a walk with your child, eat with your child, play together, tell him a story about your experience as a child. 

2. Creating family traditions encourages strong roots and a healthy life. 

This takes time and practice. Personal traditions are sacred because they promote exchanges that strengthen bonds of love and intimacy and build the kind of confidence that will carry your child through this world. 

3. We grow in cycles. 

There is a rhythm and pulse to each child’s life – sometimes fast and intense, sometimes slow and quiet. Just as each spring brings a renewed sense of appreciation for life, each stage of a child’s life is a time of new discovery and wonder. After all, learning is not just a process of accruing information. It's the process of transforming our ideas, and sometimes this requires forgetting in order to see with fresh eyes. Some children will take a step backward before making a giant leap forward. 

Growing in cycles means that we don’t get just one chance to learn something. The same lesson will offer itself up to us again and again as we pass through the seasons of our life. There is deep forgiveness in this way of understanding childhood, which I find takes the pressure off parents to “get it right” the first time.
4. Encouragement is not the same as indulgence. 

We are not in the business of raising little kings and queens. Kings don’t do well in our society. Recent studies have shown that indulgence actually weakens your child’s powers to survive, deflating motivation and diminishing feelings of success. 

Encouragement means putting courage in your child, not doing things for him. Create a supportive context that will open up a path without pushing your child down it. Unconditional love is the scaffolding that encourages your child to take chances, to experiment, and to fail without judgment. Sometimes being an encouraging presence in your child’s life means standing a little off in the background, there to offer a compassionate hand when circumstances call for it, but trusting in his innate ingenuity. 

There is spaciousness in encouragement. Indulgence, on the other hand, limits freedom by inflating a child’s sense of entitlement and reducing the patience needed to work through obstacles when he doesn't instantly get his way. Indulgence leads to small-minded thinking.

5. Pushing your buttons is a spiritual practice, and children are our spiritual teachers. 

You don’t need an expensive spiritual retreat to become enlightened. Your little sage-teacher is right in front of you, offering you true wisdom free of charge! 

Children watch our every move when they're little, studying our inconsistencies as they try to figure out this crazy world. And they will call you on it. When a child pushes your buttons, remember: they are your buttons, not hers. Take the time to listen to what your child is trying to teach you. One of the secrets of parenthood is our willingness to transform ourselves out of love for our child. When you're willing to look at your buttons, you open up a deeper self-awareness that is transformative for both you and your child. 
6. A symptom is the body’s way of letting us know something has to change. 

Good medicine asks what is the symptom trying to accomplish? rather than simply suppressing it. Our body has its own intelligence and yet so much of pharmaceutical advertising tries to convince us that there is something wrong with feeling symptoms. Much of my medical training was focused on stopping symptoms as if they were the problem. (This is like telling the body to shut up. It’s rude!) We don't trust the body’s intelligence. We think too much and tend to be afraid of feelings in our body. 

But children have taught me that a symptom like fever is actually not the problem. Whatever is causing the fever may be a problem, but the temperature is simply the body’s way of trying to deal with what’s happening. 

Take, for example, the child with a fever. What other symptoms does the child have? If he is playful, you may not need to suppress the fever. It means the body is trying to make metabolic heat to mobilize the immune system. To help it do this, you can give warm (not cold) fluids so it doesn’t dry out and nourishing foods like soups to fuel the fire.

7. Be prepared. 

The one phrase from the Eagle Scout motto that stuck with me since I was a boy was Be prepared. This is a state of readiness that can be fueled by confidence or fear. 

These days I practice what I call “preparatory medicine” rather than preventive medicine, so that getting sick is not seen as a failure. Being healthy does not mean never getting sick. Life is a journey of ups and downs and the growing child lives in a constant state of flux. A resilient immune system is one that learns how to get sick and get better. Living too clean a life robs us of the information necessary to be fully prepared to recover. 

Rather than living in fear of illness, there are natural ways we can support our children to recovery from illness quickly and efficiently: good nutrition, hydration, probiotics, rest and exercise. But the most important? Rather than focusing on how often your child gets sick, celebrate how often she gets better.
8. Healing takes time. 

The most alternative medicine I practice these days is taking time. As a society, we're addicted to quick fixes because we have no time to be sick anymore. As a doctor, I was trained as a kind of glorified fireman, looking to put out emergencies quickly and efficiently. 

In emergencies, strong medicine is often necessary to save lives but most health problems in childhood are not emergencies. In those instances it takes more than strong medicine to get better; it takes time. I realize that taking another day off from work because a child has been sent home from school with a runny nose can add real stress to our already stressful lives. But children have taught me that healing is a kind of developmental process that has its own stages too. 

When we don’t take time to recover, we rob our children of the necessary stages they need to learn from if they are to develop long-lasting health. When we take time to recover, illness becomes a journey of discovery, not just a destination; we begin to see our health and illness as two sides of the same coin. 

9. The secret of life is letting go. 

Life is a process of constantly giving way. Things pushed past their prime transform into something else. Just as spring gives way to summer, so is each stage of development a process of letting go. Crawling gives way to walking. Babbling gives way to speaking. Childhood gives way to adolescence. By breathing in, you breathe out. By eating, you poop. 

Each season, each stage, each little rhythm of our life is a matter of letting go. This allows us to get rid of what we don't need to make room in our lives for new information. Learning to let go is not always easy and each child has his own adaptive style and timing. Nature favors diversity. Remember to honor your child’s unique nature. This is what my book Fire Child Water Child is all about. 

Perhaps the most important way children teach me how to let go is in the way they play. Playing means letting go of our inhibitions; it frees us up and allows us not to take ourselves too seriously. 

10. Trust yourself: You're the expert on your child. 

One of the most important things I teach new parents is how to trust themselves. Nowhere is this more daunting than when a new baby comes into our life. We’re expected to know everything and yet we feel like we know nothing. But children have taught me that this knowing-nothing can be a real opportunity to open our powers of intuition. 

Mindful parenting begins by listening with an open heart to your child’s life without fear or panic. Studies have shown that a mother’s intuition is more powerful than any lab test in picking up problems. Unfortunately today we are flooded with so much scary information that it interferes with our ability to listen to our own intuition. (Just think of the arrogance of a doctor who acts like he knows your child better than you do!) 

Take a tip from your baby. Look into your baby’s eyes. Imagine what it feels like to be conscious of the world before you have language, before all those labels that scare us and divide things into good and bad, right and wrong. Babies have no enemies. This is seeing from the source. It is what Zen Buddhists call “beginner’s mind.” Watch closely how your baby breathes with his belly. This is Qigong breathing. Stop thinking for a moment and try breathing this way. You may just find the answers you need waiting for you there.

11. Take the long view. (Because it’s easy to get caught in the immediacy of a problem, especially at 2am.)

Having watched thousands of children grow into adulthood, what sometimes seems like a big deal at four-months old or 14-years old may be no more than a small bump in the road. Children have taught me how to take the long view of life. When we step back and see the big picture of our lives, we discover wisdom and compassion.

Stephen Cowan, MD, FAAP is a board-certified pediatrician with 25 years of clinical experience working with children. He has a subspecialty in Developmental Pediatrics and is New York State Certified in Medical Acupuncture. He is a fellow in the American Academy of Pediatrics, a member of the AAP Committee on Children with Disabilities and a member of the American Academy of Medical Acupuncture. He is founder of The Westchester Center for Holistic Families where he offers holistic evaluation and treatments for children. He also sees patients at the Shen Center in NYC. He has lectured internationally on alternative approaches to health problems in children. He is the author of Fire Child Water Child and has contributed chapters to several books about holistic approaches to childhood conditions. He specializes in the diagnosis and treatment of pediatric problems such as Attention Deficit Disorder, Autistic Spectrum Disorders, Migraine, Tourette's syndrome, Asthma and Allergies. Understanding the child as an inter-related part of family and environment is the central focus of his practice. This approach respects the inseparability of mind, body and spirit and promotes a deeper understanding of what it means to be healthy. For appointments: email drstephencowan@gmail.com or call: 914-864-1976

Sunday, December 23, 2012

hmmm... tido lambat- bestnyer dan suppliment baru

Aaaahhhh... mlm ni masih enjoy tido lambat.. ada lagi another 1 week leave to go.. hahaha... boleh ler tido lambat selagi suker...

Sheaun Wazif sgt enjoy main air..suka ke theme park (sib baik dok dekat The Carnivall) so boleh dikatakan selalu jugaklah ke situ sbb dia nak berenang pakai pelampung... enjoy tgk dia main..dan dia dh semakin gelap sbb sunburn...sekarang kesihatan dia dah semakin bagus...sejak amalkan minum alpha lipid lifeline.. susah nak tgk dia selalu dapat selsema macam dulu..teringat lah swatu waktu dulu di mana setiap bulan pasti akan labur duit kat baby specialist- tak batuk demam, tak demam akan selsema... mcm2...so bila dikenangkan rasa mcm rugi jer labur duit amik ubat (tak bagus utk baby sebenarnya) so bila dah jumpa supplement like this.. mmg sy manyak sinang hati loo... anak sihat dan kuat!!!

sukanyer sy nak share dgn semua org yg supplement ni mmg bagus.. minum yg 1st trial sj (masa tu sheaun dh sikit2 berhingus nak selsema) belah pagi then sebelah ptgnya terus dia baik.. siap aktif bertenaga (sy pulak tak menang tangan nak layan...) hmmm apa sajalah sheaun.. janji awak dah tak sakit / alah seperti dulu lagi..

Kalau korang google psl alphalipid lifeline ni actually dia byk function ..nak berdiet pun ada SDII, nak ubat kencing manis, sakit tua, asma etc pakai lifeline.. byk lg product dia.,. in tablet pun ada.. klu ada yg berminat nak consume or jadi ahli, sila email sy untuk keterangan lanjut.


Wednesday, December 19, 2012

2 gumbira 1 stress

Salam All,

lama tak jejak di sini... rindu sekali sekala jenguk jugak ke sini tapi selalunya x sempatlah nak update entry.. cuma hari ni "terrajin" lah pulak.. he he he.. sbb aku sedang bercuti selama 2 weeks... well... sebenonyer nak perabih cuti yg x bleh carry fwd .. tu pun aku burn cuti lagi 1/2 hari... ermm apa bleh buat dec hanya ada 31 days jer.. klu ada 32 days.. confirm aku lajak cuti punya... he he

Just nak share the above topic- what had happenned to me today...fyi even dalam bercuti ni pun kena gak join meeting beb...hairan gak apsal bos beria2 suh aku dtg meeting ni evetho dia taw aku cuti (dia mmg susah hati masa nak aprove application cuti tu.. hehehe)

1) 1 stress
-well eberybody.. aku kena bambu dlm meeting!!! huh..boring gak memula tu sbb chairman bebel jer sampai x beri peluang utk aku membela diri!! huh dasar... tapi aku x kecik hati langsung sbb taw mmg aku kerja keras dan dia x berhak nak persoal y i did not d that and this...so as conclusion wlau kena bantai dengan hebatnya di depan 16 org committee members tapi aku masih mampu senyum (petua dia masuk telinga kanan then keluar telinga kiri) hehehehe

2) Gumbira no 1
- and then selepas bebelan non stop masuk ke bab performance in 1/2 financial year... my work lagi 3% nak reach 1/2 of yearly target... kira OKlah tu.. sbb semua tu usaha aku sorang.. and now this month dah masuk staff baru harapnya result akan lebih gempak dlm bulan June nanti....sure korang tak berapa nak paham kan...ikut suka aku lah nak cerita jugak hehe....sbb nak bgtaw aku terima tepukan gemuruh dari semua sbb performance result ni huh... luruh segala sakit hati tadi yg terkena bebelan non-stop from chairman...

3) Gumbira no 2
- ermmm.. korang nak taw.. masa meeting sedang berjalan tetiba datang sorang HR head ni "melamar" aku utk 1 new post at his co - Talent Management... ermmm...lepas dia explain about the job hatiku berbunga.. kembang setaman beb...actually dah lama dok fikir nak tukar field dh malas nak buat event management eventho keja sekarang ni very flexy but if ada event at night selalunya aku akan berperang dengan hubby.. dia takmo aku keja sampai x ingat baby....dan dia amat tidak suka aku handle dinner dan golf event...maybe sbb jeles kot aku nyer contacts ramai big bosses yg rata2nya adalah LELAKI....ermmm ada logiknya jugak...kejap tadi jugak aku browse psl talent management ni... interesting job and ada big future and i kinda like the sounds of it!!!

ooit menaip ni melaparkan ropanyer.. so i better stop here nak pi makan supper sat (tak dinner pun tadi asyik layan sheaun)


Saturday, October 20, 2012

Salah faham

Kiraan ku salah ker org memang aku salah paham??? huh seharian memekiokan benda alah ni yg aku dok target result gempak tetapi yg dpt tak se"gah" yg di harapkan.. owwhhh mcm mana jadik macam ni? nak tanya lebih2 waktu mlm ler aku baru nak online time org semua dh tido...

apa2 un ku harap dapat selesaikan benda kusut masai ni by Dec 2012

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Sleepless nite and sewing machine

Yo Sayang!  
(used to start with this masa zaman ada diary tulis tangan dolu2- form1 till form 3)....

Ntah apa lah yang keep bugging my head sampai tak bleh nak tdo......owwwh ISO Audit owwhh brochures.. owhh t-shirt tak design lagi.. oowwhh and owwhh and owwhh....

Manyak kilija lah ini pompuan...selagi blom masuk my asst (she'll be reporting in Dec 2012) selagi itulah ku rasa diri ini kerja mcm tak cukup tangan..starting Oct dh confirm aku kena kerja every Sat...cuti Ahad-isnin.. but isnin tu mcm tak cuti jugaklah org asyik call nak itu ini... sy mau OFF handphone every Monday until end Nov.. ahaksss...hmmm enuf with cerita psl keja yg tak pernah sudah...

Brothers NV950 - jgn tak caya sy "terbeli" mesin jahit ni- harganya waktu tu offer 50% from actual price...amat sesuai utk saya yg bukan heavy sewer..dia ada mcm2 function dan yg best skali dia bleh buat sulam...

ada usb port utk download new design for sulaman- kedai ada jual thumdrive for RM200/pcs dalamnya ada beratus design sulaman baru.... hmm setakat ni sy blom buat any project sulaman.. dan sudah berjaya jahit seluar sheaun (otter kat kaki yg terlebih pjg), also my new pants jahit kaki seluar jugak... now tgh siapkan langsir utk rumah baru nanti...errr dan swatu hari nanti nak habiskan project apron glamor sy yg tak siap2 dari mula2 beli mesin jahit nih...

My mom sure suka klu dia tengok mesin nih.. sy ni terpengaruh dgn minat my mom yg suka menjahit .. ingat lagi kecik2 dulu dia slalu bwk sy ke kelas jahitan beliau...walau sy tak pernah ingat mcm mana suasana kelas tu tapi masih terpahat dlm ingatan yg sy slalu ikut dia ke kelas jahitan.. he he mcm mana tu???

Saya minat sgt nak buat sulam2 nih guna mesin...byk project dh bebaris dok tggu nak di laksanakan... lepas habis project langsir ni nak buat project cadar sulam pulak (huh bila la nak siap apron glamor tu...) then lapik dinner table, nak belajar buat bag sendiri.. sulam tudung bawal crown sendiri.. huh.. besar punya angan...he he...huaarrrggghhh,, yeeeee sy dah mengantuk... oklah nak tdo dulu- besok nak ke a.staq buat internal audit.

nite sheaun wazif!